As engaged citizens, we will encounter obstacles on our journey to create a better world. Inspired by the Buddha, we know that we need to work on ourselves first, but we can also aspire to benefit others.

We can recall that this world is complex and that nothing can really be “fixed” or remedied forever. Unfulfilled expectations can be painful, but it is dwelling or fixating on that disappointment that compounds the suffering. The less attached we are to our own idealistic agenda and the more flexible and open we are, the more likely we will be able to take action based on wisdom and compassion. Pragmatism means being willing to accept the situation as it is and choose the kindest path forward.

By seeing things as they are, rather than how we wish them to be, we can develop mental calm, impartiality, and an even temper—i.e., equanimity (upeksa)—in response to our successes and failures. Furthermore, by remembering and applying all of the four immeasurables (loving-kindness, compassion, joy, and equanimity), we can develop more patience with those we are aspiring to benefit and the diligence to keep moving forward.

Nothing can be truly fixed forever. Disappointment is certain, suffering is optional. How we perceive, experience and respond to change has a direct impact on our wellbeing.

Reflect on how different responses to unwelcome change—such as resistance, aggression, surrender, equanimity—feel in the body.

• How does it feel in the body to experience unexpected change?

Analyze how attachment to idealistic expectations creates suffering in social engagement; evaluate how equanimity enables balanced responsiveness to change while maintaining compassion; and implement community service approaches that demonstrate neither detached indifference nor rigid attachment to outcomes.