To encourage responsibility, respect, and mindful action in relationships, this precept advises people to avoid sexual behaviors that could harm themselves or others in the present or that could create potential for future harm.

The precept prohibits adultery, rape, sex with someone who is engaged, imprisoned, ordained, or protected by parents or guardians. It prohibits manipulating someone into having sex against their wishes. It prohibits sex with animals.

The precept doesn’t prohibit sex entirely, as lay Buddhists aren’t expected to be celibate. Buddhist scriptures do not prohibit gay sex, although there have been places and times when some schools have added additional rules. A number of modern teachers have expressed support for gay marriage.

Pali Vow: “I undertake the training-precept to abstain from inappropriate or harmful sexual behavior.”

Different people and cultures have different definitions of and social norms around sexual misconduct. As a general rule, if we are using our bodies in a way that is harmful to others, then it is misconduct. Consent and honesty are key. We are responsible for our bodies and how we use them.

Reflect on what sexual misconduct means to them, and on what sources of information helped shape their ideas.

• Reflect on the meaning of acting responsibly, respectfully, and mindfully when relating to others intimately. How do we respect our integrity and the integrity of others in our intimate/sexual relationships?
• What does consent mean?
• How do we consent and/or ask for consent?

Analyze the Buddhist understanding of sexual misconduct within the context of consent, honesty, and non-harm; evaluate how the principles of respect and mindfulness apply to intimate relationships; and synthesize understanding by examining how this precept supports both personal integrity and healthy community relationships.